The cold air of the night made us both groan, and as we passed a taco shop, we opted for Mexican food rather than Italian. The taco shop was filled with Christmas decor as well as giving it their own Spanish spin. I will not bore you with the details of what we ordered, but it is presumable that I will be back to this place to eat.

After paying, we left the taco shop, into the freezing cold and made our way to the warm furnace of Griffin. As we walked there, Fancy called and said she was here. We looked across and see a girl in faded white boots, jeans, shirt and a smile, skipping along the Fremont Street

The Griffin was warm and full of people smoking, drinking and having meaningful conversations. Conversations like, “Do you think this dress makes me look fat?” or “I work in retail. You do to? Great. We both work in retail…” Conversations like these are definitely the start of a beautiful friendship. It is a bar that you can have meaningful, yet, shallow conversation in the hopes that you can cross the threshold from naive and simplistic to meaningful and esoteric. The talk of religion, philosophy, politics, or ones doxology is short lived in a place like this.

In everything I just said, the aim of the story is not the bar, but the homeless person that we met outside the Griffin. After deciding that the bar was far to crowded and loud to talk, we went outside. Fancy made a phone call, and Lyv and I stood near the curb. A homeless guy approached Lyv and I to ask for food. Testing him, I said, “I can buy you food, but I don’t have any money to give you.” The homeless guy nodded and said, “Sure, there is a restaurant inside the El Cortez.” The El Cortez is a casino near Fremont Street were everyone goes to get free parking. As we walked towards the El Cortez, I found out that David was from California, his mom and brother are living in Las Vegas, but he can’t stay with them because of some complication that he did not want to get into with me.

We finally get seated and I just asked, “How is your faith?” At this point he begins to tell me that he is Christian – I had my doubts – and that he loves to read the old testaments of the bible. After a while, the check came and I gave my bank card to Olivia to pay for the bill. Unknowingly a person seating next to us was overhearing our conversation and decided to use his points that he won gambling to pay for the meal – what a blessing. The man was military and must have known we had no money. I continue to talk with David about God, and Jesus, and towards the end of the conversation we prayed.

After a long ordeal with Vanessa and Haley trying to make us stay at the Griffin, “It’s only twelve o’ clock, that is early, your staying,” Haley yells, we finally sneak out and walk back to the parking garage. When we arrived at my car, the keys to my car where inside the car. I was locked out. This is when I remembered myself taking several items out from pocket because I was afraid to loose them in the Griffin. After giving a sigh, I called the American Automobile Association (AAA) to help me with my car problem. A truck came in less than 30 minutes, opened my car and left. I dropped Olivia off at her house and we were both pretty tired and glad that the night was over.

I pray that we decide and rejoice to wait upon you God. I pray that we give our own understanding to categorize love and choose agape.

I would like to discuss the idea that in a romantic relationship between man and women the “best” friend of the relationship must suffer and relinquish more of themselves but  remain in contact to continue to be the best friend. Most people would shrug this notion because most friends do not have to suffer for their friend who suffers in their relationship, but I have witnessed people who have cried because their friends are suffering. This feeling has nothing to do with romanticism between best friends but has to do with actual “agape” love for a brother or a sister. There is nothing worse to know when your friend changes who they are for their relationship so that they can be better compatible. In this compatibility, the best friend is usually left to his/ her own life. In my personal experience, there must have been so many friends I do not commune with because I possess a relationship with someone.

NOTE: I am not trying to bash relationships. I firmly believe in relationships and their functions and for the person that can accept the responsibility of “love” should definitely pursue it. I am merely stating a fact that friends with relationships tend to stray away from their non romantic friends.

So there exist two alternatives for a “best” friend to continue in a relationship with someone with a romantic relationship. The first is to continue with the suffering or joy for your friend that has found love in his/ her life. Second is to move on and continue to find other friends. The benefit of singleness is being able to find many friends.

Happy Hunting =)

If you look at family as an entity of itself, then you may see that each family grows in certain ways. I will break down some ideas on how families work. Please note that I am merely speculating and this blog is merely opinion. Also note, that there are no bad families, there are only families that fail when they choose to move up or down on the tier of families and find that it may be difficult to do so.

The Non Existent Family: This family type are the type of group members that live separate and different lives from each other. They mirror their lives with today’s current economy – fast paced. Money and success may be a factor that play a part in the non-existent role that each member plays with each other. They may not understand, care, or know what is going on with the members of the family, but are on their way to financial success.

The Awkward Family: This family type are similar to the Non-Existent Family, with one difference. That difference is that each members of the family are trying to know, understand, and feel for one another’s emotions. They are making attempts to get to know one another, while attempting to obtain their own busy lives and successes. A problem they may face could be the degree of interaction they have with one another. The degree of growth with another is dependent on the amount they place with their success. Their stories are only shared in passing or when one attempts to find out.

The Average Family: Mostly all Americanized families have fallen into this tier. This is where members of the family share their stories on moments where everyone is at the dinner table. Although this type of family doesn’t achieve financial success, this type does well in their relationships. Financial success may not be as important than simplicity and living well enough to survive.

The Well-To-Do Family: The families that are not rich but can still afford to buy a nice house and fancy car are the well to do families. This type of family can afford not to work as much because members of the household make enough monetary earnings to live a life where members of the family can focus on relationships with each other. This family may not always work because money becomes a major problem with relationships. Members may prioritize their relationships around materialism.

The Nouveau Family: This type of family have been popping up with the fall of 2008 American economy. Since people have started to educated themselves about  environmental safety, keeping the air clean, emission safe automobiles, and the “Green” movement, families that live carefree, grow plants, eat healthy organic food families have been able to sprout around everywhere. Although this type of family have already existed before the realization of the Green movement, more have sprouted when this movement have become commercial around America. This family lives within their means to survive. Simplicity is the main issue the families like these have thrived and lived. Its not about becoming successful but its about surviving.

Again, there are no bad, worst or terrible families. Because each one of these families can fail, but the ones that survive will be dependent on the members of the family playing their role in the tier of families given.

Here is the story:

Last night, my girlfriend and I went downtown to the Griffin – waiting for some friends – after awhile, the Griff. filled up with people. We decided to go home and just call it a night – downtown was packed with people. Entering the freeway, I was stopped in a red-left turn light, once the light turned green, a car from behind immediately began to honk his car, signaling me to go.  As I was traveling in the freeway, the same man attempted to cut me off, and sped in front of me – he was clearly drunk. My pride got the better of me and I tailed him until we arrived at our exit. Long-story short, I want to apologize to this person.

“I am sorry that I lost control of myself, I am sorry that as a society we strive for advancement but devolve when situations like this occurs. I also apologize because we were the car that called you in to metro as a drunk driver.” I really hope he get caught, but I sometimes don’t have hope for the police department here (thats another  blog).

In closing, as a society, we strive for advancement. We want bigger buildings, better technology, etc. We are a society that “symbolically” reaches for the heavens; yet, our thinking is still primitive, we still strive for the cave man mentality. We are irate about simple things, we kill for no reason, we cheat because it feels good, and we absolutely bow down to no one. HOORAY for life, HOORAY for the living, HOORAY….

Here is my complaint, this man was obviously not a gentlemen, he was merely a boy in the standards that I have been raised with. He did not acknowledge my presence stating his intentions with my girlfriend to be more than just talking. My logic being is that if he was there to have a conversation, he would have continued with the conversation regardless if I was sitting next to her or not – to which I would hope he would eventually introduce himself to me or her. He stopped halfway through the conversation once I had arrived. Am I wrong to think this way? Should I have not gave this “animal” a red flag with my girlfriend? What are your thoughts?

If you want to talk to a girl with friends – regardless if he or she is taken – make sure to always acknowledge everyone around her. This will make you look respectable and not a DOUSCH!! Although my girlfriend only met him once, he will forever be a villain for eternity. He will be suspect to every novel, tale, and poem I ever write.

Questions, comments, concerns.

So today I write this: The Understanding of Points Between Man and Women

Everyone knows that in a relationship, the guy can never get a break. Do not misunderstand me, I am a major fan of women’s rights, I definitely make it a point never to talk against women who are being oppressed physically, mentally, and socially. And the absolute rule that I have engraved into my head is to never talk against women pregnancy – because it is a beautiful-painful-ordeal between the child and her mother.

But today, I would like to talk about the point system. The unspoken point system that women and their significant other have established for themselves to be the law of who is leading as the hero in the relationship. For every good deed a man can gain cookie points, brownie points, etc. These points can then be cashed in on a later date by the man through dinners, hanging out with his friends, man-movies (which to most men include action, horror or satirical films). But beware, because for every good point a man achieve with your lady friend, he will be deducted ten times that much points if he screws up – this is how the point system works. Men knows this rule and continuously walk on thin ice. I am not a girl so I could not be trusted with what goes through a women’s mind – but what goes through a man’s mind is definite. So for the guys here are some violations that you should never establish for yourself to gain an extra point, because when your girl finds out that you have cheated to gain the point, you will loose ten times as much.

Cheating Through Lying

Understand, that liars never prosper. If you lie to get a measly tally on your cool meter, you have cheated the system and it is just a matter of time. Do not lie to your girl. It is always safe to be honest and true with everything you do with her. If she asks you, “Who is better looking?” you better believe it is her; and if you don’t, there is no point being with her. I think physical attraction is as important to mental attraction. You cannot simply be attracted to a girl’s IQ, and continue on in a relationship without physical attraction.

Cheating by Indian Giving

No offense to my fellow indians, but there is an American saying that if you take something back, you are an indian giver. If you desire the maximum amount of points, never take back what you say. If you said something, grow a pair of melons and own up to what you have stated. If you said she was a little chubby in the past, it is okay to re-affirm her that she is still beautiful. Who ever said fat women where undesirable is blind – to each is his own. There is definitely someone for everyone, and cheating by indian giving is not a gentlemen thing to do. If you are not physically attracted with a fat women (or skinny women) then there is no point of continuing your lie – reference to the first rule above.

Cheating Through Loyalties

Time and time again, I have been dinged for doing this!! Be aware that when you get into a relationship, it is NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE!!! You do not exist. In this world, the term “WE” is the dominant word. With that said, in a relationship, the only people group that reins dominance is your God (or whatever god you follow via religion), and your family. Unfortunately the guys takes the back end when in a relationship. There is no such thing as hanging out with the guys after work, if you and your girlfriend have plans to watch Mathew McConaughey’s, How to Loose a Guy In Ten Days. There is a way to remedy this situation, if you have accidently planned two events at one night, you can gamble on your girlfriends patience to let you hang with the boys and not take away points, or you can gamble with the boys to understand – be aware that unless you are a homosexual, the point system doesn’t work for guy on guy.

If you have any questions, corrections, anger, or statements please let me know. I would love to hear from you guys and what you think?????!!!!

First of all, the proper and safe thing to do, is to never drink from an untrusted source. And reasoning that you have met them already – and have deemed them to be a top bloke – doesn’t negate from the fact that they may have an unworthy mouth – with germs and/or feces. Pre-cautions must be taken place before ever drinking from a source. You must first have a comprehension of their history, who they are and what do they do. Then you must share some form of event that enables you to bond – you will understand this moment of bonding when at that precise moment you think, “Hm, I  should add him on top 20s on Myspace,” but don’t actually do so. This minor occurrences will give you a gauge on how risky or safe his/her mouth may be – because after all, drinking someone’s drink is like kissing them as well. Your drinking backwash or saliva alongside with the liquid substance in the glass. Another point to consider is the glass, is it safe? is is clean or dirty? where did you pick it up from? Questions like these should also gauge if the glass is safe to drink from or if it has the plague and your screwed. 

The next level of drinking, is taking a swig from a person you trust. You can never guarantee complete safety if your drinking another persons drink, but just like sharing your soda with eight members of your family in the movie theater, you have the potential of possibly not getting anything- its a gamble. I vote that the rule for sharing drinks is for every one cup, you can only drink from two trusted sources (one being a family member or the one cup, two member rule doesn’t apply). That means, two people and yourself can drink off of one cup only if one of them is a family member. If one of them is not a family member then its only one cup for every one person. 

Another rule to consider is the quality of the cup. DIXIE reds are usually good quality alcoholic drink cups and are the regulated size for maximum beer pong fun – for all you party goers out there. Wine glasses usually would constitute wine to be poured for consumption and normal glasses are usually miscellaneous, which are adequate for every other drink. So if you are in a party and see a wine glass with beer in it, it could be safe to consider that it may not be as trustworthy to drink from. What if there are no more glasses, and the wine glass is left? then the sharing rule should always be the guidelines if anyone is unsure of what to drink. 

Overall, my friend just posted a bulletin – like he normally does – and rather than comment, I thought I would blog about it. I think this is a topic that grips the nations concerns and must be heard for the people.

I thought there was a saying that, “You get wiser over the years?” Perhaps in certain uneducated societies, that reasoning doesn’t apply. I understand that sometimes people have bad days, rough days, days where you just wish you can pull the blankets over your eyes for the next 15 hours and wait till the next morning. But in bad situations like that, I would think that people would just stay home and not burden others with negativity. In bad days like that, I would hope people would at least be cordial to strangers – I guess this is not the 50s and 60s.

What happened to common decency? Is chivalry really dead? In this fast paced moving society, we can sometimes find a cold shoulder when meeting a stranger on the street, or even a seat next to you, inside a theater. The old days doesn’t exist, where every man is our brother and every stranger is protected and kept. America, land of the free, land of the Teller-Offers…..